Who says guys and girls can’t be just friends? One author makes the case why, in fact, they SHOULD.
I really enjoyed the original post that Elisa wrote about “Why Every Guy Needs a Girl…Friend.” Naturally, I jumped at the chance to write the follow up post, “Why Every Girl Needs a Guy…Friend.” While Elisa wrote her article for all of the fellas in the audience, I wrote this one just for the females. Ladies, as soon as you are done reading this article, you will jump up and immediately leave your house/apartment/condo in search of guys who could possibly be your guy…friend. Who knows, maybe a few guys who are reading this might be more open to the possibility of a girl/guy friendship than they were before.
There are a few different dynamics that a relationship between a guy and a girl can take. One is a dating relationship, where the two dress up and go on dates together and eventually talk about getting married. Another is more like the relationship between a brother and a sister. This is how you want to feel about your guy…friend. You will never picture him as potential boyfriend material, because he is like a brother to you, and that’s gross!
I have had several good friends who were girls in high school and in college, and I feel like we both benefited from the different perspectives. There are probably more reasons than I have listed here, but I have highlighted some of the first that came to mind below:
- He can serve as a relationship BS tester. You can learn a lot by how a potential boyfriend treats your platonic guy…friend. Jealousy can be an ugly thing, especially in a boyfriend. If you are close with your guy…friend, a jealous boyfriend will immediately be exposed upon meeting your him.
- Your guy…friend can act as either a bodyguard or a boyfriend stand-in when that creepy guys hit on you. This has come in handy for my girl…friends several times while out on a Friday night. The bodyguard aspect is also good so you don’t have to walk home alone; your guy…friend will be there to after a long night out.
- When you are the girl…friend, it is much easier to tell your guy…friend what to wear than when you are dating. Most men are able to dress themselves fashionably, but I have to admit, my fashion knowledge once extended no further than “don’t wear a brown belt with black pants.” Thanks to one of my girl…friends several years ago, this is no longer the case. When just a friend, the guy knows that your opinion is completely unbiased and can feel confident about the way he looks after gaining your advice. Plus, it’s fun for you! What girl doesn’t like dressing up a boy to look better than he did before?
- You can be yourself in front of your guy…friend. It seems that some girls feel the need to always have makeup on and behave like a perfect lady in front of men. This is not the case with your guy…friend, who you are not trying to impress. You both know each other well enough that you don’t need to act like a lady. Go ahead, dive into a Chipotle burrito without a fork. I guarantee he will diving in as well.
- By spending time with your good guy…friend, you automatically become more approachable and have more in common with potential boyfriends. This goes for guys hanging out with girl…friends, too. Some girls can seem intimidating to guys because of their looks or their smarts. Knowing that they love to watch sports or can quote your favorite R-rated comedy will give you something in common and makes a girl instantly more approachable. Guys like a girl who can be interested in traditionally “guy” activities just as a girl likes a guy who can be interested in traditionally “girl” ones.
- Most importantly, your guy…friend will give you the blunt truth when you need it. Sometimes even your best girlfriends will fudge the truth a bit in order to soften the blow of bad news. This can be a good thing occasionally, but other times, you need to blunt truth about a bad job, habit or relationship. Your guy…friend will immediately skip the BS and tell you what is wrong.
These are just some of the reasons why it is good to have a guy…friend in your own version of Sex and the City.
Can you think of other reasons why it would be good for a girl to have a guy…friend? Could any of these bullet points be disputed?