Think Sheryl Sandberg’s book Lean In doesn’t apply to you? Here’s why it might.
Oprah is calling , the new book written by Facebook’s Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg, “.” Sandberg uses her own experience—both her mistakes and successes—to offer women a guidebook on balancing a fulfilling professional career and family.
Do you have to be a young woman sitting in a cubicle to apply Sandberg’s advice? Not at all. Even if you’re still finishing your college degree and have no idea what you want to do with it yet, the book is still applicable to your developing career.
It’s counterintuitive to think you should “lean in” to your as-yet-to-be-determined , but leaning in is exactly what college students and recent grads should do. And here are three ways you can do it:
1. Focus on being heard, not liked
How many classes have you sat through where you smiled, nodded politely and generally showed the professor you were paying attention—but never raised your hand or spoke up?
Unfortunately, being likable and being successful are not the same thing. High GPA aside, star student status is really determined by how well your professors know you. Whether in school or at work, aim to be heard and not always liked. Ask challenging questions and voice your opinions.
Good professors and managers respect and will remember those who speak up, and they’ve got fantastic insights and contacts to offer your future career. It’s the connections you make now—when you’re floating from one career idea to another—that will help anchor you for the long haul.
2. Develop a lasting relationship with a mentor
Hopefully you’re involved in a few different student activities, or you’ve spent some time with administrators and professors at your school. If you’ve already graduated, think about the higher-ups at your current job—or even your parents’ friends.
Mentors are people who can and want to help guide your life and career. Since you don’t know what you want to do, aim to find someone who will be completely honest with you, who has a variety of experience and who you can count on to be there for years to come.
3. Fake confidence till you make it
One of the biggest lessons from Lean In is that people’s own lack of self-confidence is what really holds them back—far more so than outside influences.
When you don’t know what you want to do with your life, you probably lower your own expectations of yourself, fail to set big goals and stop being ambitious.
If you don’t know where you’ll be career-wise in the foreseeable future, apply self-confidence, set big goals and be ambitious about figuring it out. Make career exploration your job, and jump in full-force rather than leaning back.
College students and recent grads face far too many obstacles from external forces. Employment for 20-somethings in today’s barely recovering economy is still high, and the majors most schools offer rarely match the jobs employers have to offer. Why add your own internal doubt and uncertainty to that already heavy load?
Lean In tells us to choke down the fear, and just go for it already. That’s advice we can all use.
Brie Weiler Reynolds is the Director of Content and Community at , the award-winning site for telecommuting and flexible job listings, and a former college career advisor. At FlexJobs, Brie offers job seekers career and work-life balance advice through the and social media.