Sometimes, burning your bridges when leaving a job can be the best thing for your future career success.
by Rebecca Thorman
This post isn’t about if you like your job. So please don’t write in the comments that you love your job and your boss so you would . Obviously.
People burn bridges when they don’t like their jobs and their bosses. Or work with totally lame people or are completely bored. So you get fired, or laid off or there comes a time when your job just isn’t what it used to be, .
You shouldn’t just walk out. You should give notice and finish your projects and be polite (if for no other reason than your own sense of pride and accomplishment). But there’s no point in continuing a negative relationship once you’re out the door. The advice to not burn bridges is outdated.
Here’s why it’s okay to cut ties:
1. You’ll change careers too often for it to matter
Most likely, you’ll change jobs before you’re 30, and 40 million people relocate each year, while 15 million make significant moves of more than 50 or 100 miles, Richard Florida.
The old rule was that workers would move to in the same town. This encouraged politics and the necessity of kissing butt. But work is changing, and now you’ll change careers and locations so often it won’t matter.
2. Your old boss won’t help you
“Healthy relationships, whether personal or professional, are formed on the basis of give and take,” LaTosha Johnson argues. It’s rare that someone will help you if you can’t help them. And besides, you won’t benefit from forcing a relationship with someone who doesn’t . When push comes to shove, these people will not help you. Why would you want to be associated with them, anyway?
3. You won’t need a reference
If you’re leaving your job, you’ll probably be looking for a new job that is more fun and more challenging. Most cool jobs don’t require traditional references. Instead, they require that to get you in the door and vouch for you. That’s usually never your current employer.
It’s quite easy to prove yourself and your work ethic in other situations , volunteering or side projects that show your worth and capability. and company is a great path towards success and is your best safety net.
4. You can have an enemy (or two)
But probably not more. Caitlin McCabe that competition is motivation. Having competition and people who remind you of who you don’t want to be is actually healthy.
In a playful but entirely useful article, Chuck Klosterman for both a nemesis and an archenemy: “We measure ourselves against our nemeses, and we long to destroy our archenemies. Nemeses and archenemies are the catalysts for everything.”
5. You can start over
Whenever you start something new, : “If the worst happened, would you be okay? Can you accept the worst-case scenario? Can you fail and survive?” Because you might just ruin your reputation, bankrupt your organization and turn an entire city against you. It happens to good people every day. Really.
Failure is an option. And it’s your best negotiating tool. That is, gives you unlimited opportunities.
None of these reasons excuse you from doing a superior job or give you or a slacker. But there’s no reason to hold onto baggage that isn’t healthy. Remember, there’s a reason you’re leaving.